How to Stop Escalation

People who operate from principles have an easier time of staying calm in the face of provocation than people who don't yet have clearly enunciated principles. 

Here's an example of a principle-based skript. The two principles at play here are: 

1. I don't argue electronically.

2. I won't be shouted at.

In this exchange, the other party might -- or might not -- stay angry, but the assurance that a conversation will happen at a named time goes a long way toward calming the storm. 

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Principle-based skripts create boundaries.

Les scripts basés sur des principes créent des limites.

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Why The Man Thought He Was a Hat

Appersonation is a disorder different from impersonation, because the sufferer truly believes the delusion. Delusions are sometimes caused by stress, though often by a medical, mental, or neurological condition. But they're deeply believed by the sufferer.

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Appersonation

The delusional belief that one is another person (usually famous) or object, which leads to taking on their characteristics. 

Appersonnification

La croyance délirante que l'on est une autre personne (généralement célèbre) ou un objet, ce qui conduit à adopter ses caractéristiques.

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Why Our Brains Lie to Us

Here's the truth: People who change their beliefs to match their behavior have lied to themselves until they found a sufficient excuse to do what they wanted. Nobody has to change their beliefs to match good behavior.

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Cognitive Dissonance

When what you do doesn't match what you believe. It's unsustainable. To relieve internal tension, either the behavior will change, or the beliefs will. 

Dissonance cognitive

Quand ce que vous faites ne correspond pas à ce que vous croyez, c'est insoutenable. Pour soulager la tension interne, soit le comportement changera, soit les croyances le feront.

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